Scared to Swim

ART · 06-14-2004, 01:17 PM

Every summer of my 8-year old son's life have been spent on the lake. He has always displayed only a luke warm interest in getting in the water. While a very good swimmer this year he seems outright disinterested. I asked him about it and he said 'there are big fish, snapping turtles, and snakes in that water'. So...he does not want to get in the water. Have any of you dealt with this? Suggestions?

Janie · 06-14-2004, 01:24 PM

Where are you located? Is it a gradual decline into deeper water? Sandy bottom? If not, bring him somewhere where you can find sand and a gradual decline into the water. Bring him there for a couple of days swimming with him and, then, he'll be ready for jumping from the dock, etc. If you already have the gradual decline and sandy bottom. I don't know. My boys (5.5 and 6.5) love the water. They jump from the dock and swim around. They like having eachother. Maybe a friend his age would help, too. If you are on Cow Island, maybe you could stop by and see if my boys can help him get over it.

murph · 06-14-2004, 06:05 PM

My 12 year old son went through the same stage. He was scared of a turtle. We let him work it out on his own. He loves the water now.

osterber · 06-15-2004, 08:38 AM

My 25-year-old younger brother is sometimes scared of the deep, dark water. He was a varsity swimmer in college, and is doing a PhD in, in you can believe it, marine biology. He spends his free time in research submarines down 10,000 feet below the surface. But the deep dark waters of Winnipesaukee are still intimidating.

Best thing I can think of is to give your son a mask and snorkel so that he can look around on his own at the end of the dock. If he can _see_ that there's nothing there, it will help him to believe there's nothing there that's dangerous.

-Rick

ART · 06-15-2004, 10:24 AM

Thank you all for your advice. I'll keep you posted over the next few weeks as we try your suggestions. My son swims well and has taken many swimming lessons. Our two older kids swim in the lake and never had any concerns. I like the sandy beach and snorkle/mask suggestions... Thanks.

Janie, we're in Wolfeboro. Thanks for the play-date offer. I'll drop you an email when we are up there. Best, Art

abay · 06-15-2004, 10:32 AM

Since you are in Wolfeboro, you must be aquainted with Carry Beach, a great public beach!! Sandy bottom, very gradual decline. A great place to get him adjusted.

webmaster · 06-15-2004, 04:14 PM

Grant · 06-15-2004, 08:31 PM

We got our kids to stop worrying about the big resident snapping turtle by giving them masks and encouraging them to follow it around for a while. Soon they realized that the gnarly-looking dude wanted nothing to do with them, and was more a-scared of the big humans than they would ever be of him. Takes time. I can remember being a young whelp and wondering what manner of weirdness was lurking in the depths, waiting to pull me under and cause great pain. Know what? I wasn't until I'd taken a few long scuba dives below Winni that I REALLY understood how little is really down there!

Kona Bay Girl · 06-16-2004, 09:49 PM

If you have a dock, take the kid fishing at the end of it, just to see what exaclty is in the water. He won't have to get in the water for this one and it might put his mind at ease if he catches nothing.

Also, if you have a gradual decline, rake the leaves out of the water early spring every year. I know the dead-leaves look of the bottom of the lake isn't really appealing on my behalf

06-14-2004, 01:17 PM	#1
ART Senior Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Medfield/Wolfeboro Posts: 109 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Scared to Swim Every summer of my 8-year old son's life have been spent on the lake. He has always displayed only a luke warm interest in getting in the water. While a very good swimmer this year he seems outright disinterested. I asked him about it and he said 'there are big fish, snapping turtles, and snakes in that water'. So...he does not want to get in the water. Have any of you dealt with this? Suggestions?

06-14-2004, 01:24 PM	#2
Janie Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Newton - Tuftonboro, NH Posts: 30 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Where are you having him swim? Where are you located? Is it a gradual decline into deeper water? Sandy bottom? If not, bring him somewhere where you can find sand and a gradual decline into the water. Bring him there for a couple of days swimming with him and, then, he'll be ready for jumping from the dock, etc. If you already have the gradual decline and sandy bottom. I don't know. My boys (5.5 and 6.5) love the water. They jump from the dock and swim around. They like having eachother. Maybe a friend his age would help, too. If you are on Cow Island, maybe you could stop by and see if my boys can help him get over it. __________________ Jane 19 Mile Bay Cow Island Tuftonboro, NH

06-14-2004, 06:05 PM	#3
murph Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Westford/Meredith Posts: 66 Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	scared to swim My 12 year old son went through the same stage. He was scared of a turtle. We let him work it out on his own. He loves the water now.

06-15-2004, 04:14 PM	#7
webmaster Moderator Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 2,453 Blog Entries: 1 Thanks: 456 Thanked 3,819 Times in 839 Posts	Picture of Carry Beach

06-16-2004, 09:49 PM	#9
Kona Bay Girl Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Middlesex County, MA Posts: 160 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Fishing! If you have a dock, take the kid fishing at the end of it, just to see what exaclty is in the water. He won't have to get in the water for this one and it might put his mind at ease if he catches nothing. Also, if you have a gradual decline, rake the leaves out of the water early spring every year. I know the dead-leaves look of the bottom of the lake isn't really appealing on my behalf __________________ Yo soy un casco.

06-15-2004, 08:38 AM	#4
osterber Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 7 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	My 25-year-old younger brother is sometimes scared of the deep, dark water. He was a varsity swimmer in college, and is doing a PhD in, in you can believe it, marine biology. He spends his free time in research submarines down 10,000 feet below the surface. But the deep dark waters of Winnipesaukee are still intimidating. Best thing I can think of is to give your son a mask and snorkel so that he can look around on his own at the end of the dock. If he can _see_ that there's nothing there, it will help him to believe there's nothing there that's dangerous. -Rick

06-15-2004, 10:24 AM	#5
ART Senior Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Medfield/Wolfeboro Posts: 109 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Thank you all for your advice. I'll keep you posted over the next few weeks as we try your suggestions. My son swims well and has taken many swimming lessons. Our two older kids swim in the lake and never had any concerns. I like the sandy beach and snorkle/mask suggestions... Thanks. Janie, we're in Wolfeboro. Thanks for the play-date offer. I'll drop you an email when we are up there. Best, Art

06-15-2004, 10:32 AM	#6
abay Member Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 29 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Since you are in Wolfeboro, you must be aquainted with Carry Beach, a great public beach!! Sandy bottom, very gradual decline. A great place to get him adjusted.

06-15-2004, 08:31 PM	#8
Grant Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Pennsyltuckey, Tuftonboro, Moultonborough Posts: 1,499 Thanks: 374 Thanked 229 Times in 123 Posts	We got our kids to stop worrying about the big resident snapping turtle by giving them masks and encouraging them to follow it around for a while. Soon they realized that the gnarly-looking dude wanted nothing to do with them, and was more a-scared of the big humans than they would ever be of him. Takes time. I can remember being a young whelp and wondering what manner of weirdness was lurking in the depths, waiting to pull me under and cause great pain. Know what? I wasn't until I'd taken a few long scuba dives below Winni that I REALLY understood how little is really down there!